Living well with lupus

Can I have sex if I have lupus?

Yes, people with lupus absolutely can have sex; however, for some, sex may be challenging at times. Joint pain, mouth sores, vaginal ulcers and a decrease in lubrication from the glands can slow sexual responsiveness and make both foreplay and intercourse painful.  If this is the case, physical adjustments, such as using pillows for support, finding less painful positions and applying lubricating ointments and creams, can often relieve discomfort during sex. Taking a warm shower or bath can relax sore muscles and joints, anti-inflammatory medication may also provide relief, and sex aids can promote response to intimacy.  It is always a good idea to keep the lines of communication open with your partner, as well as your doctor, if you are experiencing challenges.

Medically reviewed on March 11, 2014